I get so wrapped up into a guy and I just having things in common. I mean it turns me on when a guy has dreads or listens to the same music I do...or he might even be a musician himself. What does that even mean though ? Just because they posses those certain things I like doesn't mean we're going to date or whatever. Some of them I'm just better off as friends with or not talking to at all, because at times when I really get to know them they're nothing how I imagined. I let the illusion of my mind fool me, I need to stop doing that.